Greener Pastures, Gray Skies
In today's high-octane, I-want-it-all society, it seems commitment is fast-becoming lost in a sea of promiscuous affairs. The days of communication within a relationship are gone. We are more willing to seek comfort in the arms of another than we are in just communicating with the one closest to us. We have become a world of cheaters, and it is a sad trend that doesn't show any signs of a turnaround.
So why do we cheat? This question can have any number of answers, but I believe the number one reason is this: we cheat because we are constantly seeking happiness. However, we will never find happiness through affairs. Many who have cheated on their partners have learned this cold hard fact, and they truly regret their mistake. Unfortunately, once you have cheated on the one closest to you, there is no undoing it, and the consequences-more often than not-can be life-changing for both you and your partner.
If you are currently considering whether or not to have an affair, you need to ask yourself what exactly is missing in your life. I truly believe there is nothing we can't discuss with those we love. Are you sexually frustrated? If so, you really need to talk about it with your partner-they deserve the opportunity to make things right. Have you fallen out of love with your partner? Tell them-don't humiliate them by having an affair.
In any case, there is no justification for having an affair. If you have discussed your concerns with your partner, and there doesn't seem any way to work things out-then end the relationship. You can then begin your pursuit of happiness without having to resort to an affair.
We all need to realize affairs can be extremely humiliating to the ones being cheated on. It hurts, period. Speaking from experience, I know the sting felt from first learning that your partner has been cheating on you. It is a feeling that seems to hold your thoughts captive, and, if not dealt with quickly, can have devastating effects on your immediate future.
Many who have experienced the pain of being cheated on find it hard to even function. The simplest and most mundane of tasks can seem like a major undertaking while you are drowning in your heartache. The one you gave your heart to has shared intimacy with someone else, and all sorts of thoughts run through your mind. You sit and try to imagine the details, only making things worse. Your nights never turn to dawn, and the sun no longer hangs in your sky. You miss your partner, and you would give anything if you could only turn back time and undo the affair.
If you are currently suffering due to a partner's affair, you must know this-it is not the end of your life, and you have no idea what wonderful things that await you. Focusing on your pain will neither erase the affair nor bring your partner back. It is done: acknowledge it and then lay it down. Your partner's affair has not caused you this hurt-it is how you have chosen to react to it that is causing you pain. Please know that you can end the hurt at any moment of your choosing.
The most important thing for you to now realize is that you have the most amazing opportunity to just let go, and then begin to soar! Somewhere down the road, there is coming someone who will absolutely love you all their heart. The sun will once again hang in your sky, and your nights will find a dawn. Out there, somewhere, is the one person who will feel blessed just to be in your presence-and they are coming.
Affairs have become the norm in today's world, leaving many to sit on the sidelines and simply forego any kind of intimate relationship. Not until we stop glorifying affairs, and begin to act as responsible human beings, can we make our world a better place in which to live and love. Having affairs will not bring us happiness, only the realization that there is something deeper within us that needs our attention.
Tim Thacker is an author/motivational coach who has exploded onto the world scene as one of the most influential teachers of our time. Through a series of what he calls "life experiments," he set out to find why seemingly random events occur. He wanted to know why some people have everything while others have nothing. His findings have brought hope to thousands, and his findings have sparked fierce debate among religious and scientific communities. http://timthacker.org
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